Happy Friday everyone! I hope you had an amazing week, and have sweet weekend plans ahead! All of the sweet tweets and comments on last Friday’s post inspired me to usher in this weekend on a high note as well. So today, I want to talk about confidence.
More specifically, I want to share some self confidence boosters for the days when it just seems like everyone is doing better than you. Spoiler alert: they aren’t doing better than you are, it’s all in your head, stemming from a lack of confidence.
I want to break the myth that low or lack of self confidence is an attribute of the weak. It’s not, it’s an attribute of a human. We all have those days where we doubt ourselves, feel a little less spectacular, or feel like we’re traveling on a lonely road while everyone else zooms down the express way. It’s normal, it happens. The trick is, not to live in that space, to know that those thoughts are as temporary as your situation, and move on.
So, when those days roll around, try these self confidence boosters…
01 / Make more.
It may sound cliche, but practice really does make perfect. Whenever I’m feeling self conscious about sharing a new post idea, feature or design, I always go back and make more of the thing I want to share. Why? Because you become more comfortable with it, and you know the work that you’ve put into it is worthy of a huge (and positive) return on investment from others. The more you practice your craft, the more you trust your abilities.
02 / Think Positive Thoughts
A lot of times, I find that we plan for the worst and totally forget that the best is even an option. Stop siking yourself out and making assumptions about what others are thinking. Don’t assume they’re going to hate it, walk in believing that they will love it, and love you, too. Why? Because you are awesome, that’s why. And I promise I’m not the only one thinking that, so you should be thinking that, too! Spend a few minutes every once in a while writing down all of the things you know you can accomplish, then make a list of this you’ve already accomplished. Track your awesomeness!
03 / Believe in What You Do
I’ll admit, sometimes I get a little tinge of apprehension before hitting publish on a post. I have doubts if the content I create is really valuable and useful. The only way I get over that initial apprehension is by remembering how much I believe in the things I create in this space. If you do things that you genuinely believe are good and useful, trust that the rest will fall into place.
04 / Spend Time with Yourself
The more you know who you truly are, the more confident you will be in your own abilities. I know that I’m a morning person, so I’m pretty confident in myself every day that I won’t oversleep and miss anything important. Find out those little things about yourself, and see how they relate to the projects you’re currently taking on. Find the strength in your weaknesses, and watch yourself grow.
05 / Stop Comparing
If you do nothing else to try and boost your confidence, please take this one to heart. Internalize it, write it down, practice it every day. Stop comparing yourself, your work, your position, your ANYTHING to ANYONE else. Always remember that your journey is your own, completely unique in every way. No matter what anyone else is doing, your work is valuable and matters simply because it’s yours.
What do you do when you need a little confidence boost? Share your own boosters so we can all kick off the weekend feeling a little more powerful!
Amen! I’ve been working on these things over the last year and I think I’m getting much better! I just need to work more on the stop comparing item…
These are such good nuggets to remember – thank you for the reminder.
I’ve always loved this quote – “Don’t ask, ‘what’s the worst that could happen?’ ask, ‘what’s the BEST that could happen?”
Much more soul-filling 🙂
Good tips. I agree with you, lack of self confidence for sure isn’t an attribute of the weak!